Having been married for 8 years, I am into the habit of wearing ‘sindoor’. But I feel that women should not be judged on the application or non application of it. I apply it because I like to, but perhaps that is not the case with all women.
Sometimes, like I forget to wear earrings, or put on lip gloss, I do forget to apply ‘sindoor’. One such time on a shopping spree with my husband, I happened to meet a lady, with whom I had greeted a few times in the past, as her daughter and mine were classmates. She looked at me in astonishment and said ‘Aren’t you married? Where is your sign?’ I cannot forget the way she looked at me. It was like I had committed a punishable offence. I was completely taken aback, but I managed to smile and said, ‘He is here by my side, I don’t need to carry a sign’.
Then I thought about it and came upon the realization that application of the ‘sindoor’ should be a choice taken by the married individual and not something that others should use to judge married women? Whether you apply it or not, you are still married, you will still perform your duties as a wife, as a mother, as a daughter in-law. The mere application or non application changes nothing. Some women prefer to wear nose rings, bracelets, anklets, toe rings, nail colour etc. I don’t but does that make me less feminine?
It is in this context that I say that ‘sindoor’ is an ornament, a jewel to be adorned by married women; but at the end of the day, to wear it or not should be the choice of the individual and not a requirement to portray being married.
By Bristisnata Gogoi